YOUR WORTH EQUATES THE VALUE OF THE MAN YOU FINALLY END UP WITH.

 

Hmmmm.. talk about a great weekend with someone that you are in sync with; its amazingly beautiful. I had a fun moment this weekend and I hope you found a way to.
Well, let’s get this intellectual, mind stimulating blog popping, shall we??? Cus We are on the verge of breaking through in all endeavors so we aren’t leaving no stone upturned!
I am a lady, not yet a woman ofcourse i stole that line from Britney spears’.. I thought about it deeply and i just wanted to know what makes me different from the virtuous woman described in the holy book (its Sunday, right? So I can go biblical on you today).
 You know, it says, he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and also who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies!
For me that sounded like, it’s difficult to find a virtuous woman and even when you find her, come on…the price for which you can be qualified to be with her for a lifetime is far much more than rubies!

So if you are a woman reading this, you need to learn to carry yourself like a woman who’s price is far more than rubies and not just because you are a woman with a vagina to be tested by all and sundry but because you are a virtuous woman..
Now ruby has been the world’s most valued gemstones for years. it is said to be the most precious of the twelve stones created by God when he created all things and this lord of gems was placed on Aaron’s neck by God’s command and even God said that wisdom is more precious that rubies…
And really for wisdom to be compared to rubies, then it only shows how awesomely precious that stone can be. With the colour of blood red, then we can only be allowed to say that it is one of the most outstanding stones in the world ranking positions with sapphire, emerald and diamonds. 


Now, look…If you can pay over 227,000 us dollars for a carat of ruby, how much more, paying for the price of having a virtuous woman. It is worth more than rubies itself, yea?
And incase you didn’t know, virtuous means excellent and a woman who is virtuous is one who has her act together. This woman is a star. She is an absolute ten, she is simply chic…. she is a woman, full of strength and wisdom and trust me, she has got the force of an army!
And trust me, these are not the kinda words you use to describe a weak girl who has got no ambitions or goals in life, safe for the only dream to be married, have kids and die old.. *tongue out* yeah I said it, knowing marriage is important!!
This is a woman who is progressive, resourceful and yet as you delve into her as a man, you find out that she is incredibly balanced.
And y’all know that; to be balanced is one of the hardest things to attain but of a surety it is the most important ingredient when you are aspiring for greatness or success.
And yeah Lest i forget, to be balanced is to have and maintain all the elements that life has brought to your table in their proper and respective proportion… nothing missing, nothing broken, and also nothing tilting far against and above the other side of the spectrum… you get my drift ba?
That is to say that all part of your life and all aspects of your personality is being developed or is on the process of being developed simultaneously..
So when i sat down to research on this phrase called virtuous woman, i was like : “shouldn’t this be the goal of every woman and every man  for that matter?”.. I think it just has to be, if you hope to be that woman of excellence.
And i know that in your mind, you may be thinking that a woman of excellence would have to be someone who has been exposed to all of the social advantages of breeding and class..and she must be someone who is respected by men and women in a certain social strata, or maybe she must be a masters or PHD holder, or some lady who has learnt  to hold up her pinkie in the air while sipping on exotic wine from a glass as she mingles only in her calibre, right???

Well, this description is nice and suits that status but i am not merely talking about the societal definitions of excellence… that’s not what i am talking about.
I am talking about the image that depicts internal qualities such as strength and fortitude.
For me, Excellence is an ambition, not a pedigree… its about your destiny and not your origin. It speaks of your perception and standards that you can’t deviate from. Excellence gets you to the point where you draw the line and say things like “nothing less than this and this will do in my life”..
Look, I have come to the realization that a man or woman of excellence knows what she deserves and will work tirelessly to get it. So do not be discouraged if you failed in the past because excellence is not based on past performance…! it’s just a title given to someone who persisted and rose above his or her calamities.



You know, i find it so hilarious when probably a man who is successful in his own rights says that he can’t get married to a woman who has made it in life because she may not accord him the respect that he deserves as a “man.”…
Wow, that petrifying to hear men say something like that… some men say that women in excellence are mostly arrogant and never level headed, all these women want is equality… who knows they might end up overthrowing the men, if chance is being given!
I don’t believe that all women are that way. A woman is only a successful woman because she learnt to use the memory of where she was to give her strength to arise and keep it moving in life….! and the percentage of those women who become arrogant all because of the accolades that they have acquired in life is much less compared to those who are humble and meekly, waiting for the man who would be bold enough to look pass their affluence and get to know who they are for real!

Really guys, hear me out!

Would you love for me to say some bitter truth ???
Look, I don't blame the women if they have turned sour, less caring, poorly crafted, or maybe, feisty and maybe a woman who has even turned into a stupidly competitive caricature; far from what a lady originally should be like, you know sensitive, submissive and a competent specie who has got ambitions yet possesses class and finesse…
If You want more clearer definition of a true lady… oh men,i will just sum it up by saying that she is the pristine prima donna of day gone by because right now, we don't have ladies anymore that depict the ladylike attitude of days of old… or do we still have them???

Now the truth is women were not always treated justly back then. Men often took unfair advantage of their graceful demeanor and chaste disposition…. so if we must really be true to ourselves together as man and woman, i think it is the action of the man that needs mending, not the woman. A bad wife or bad woman is the aftermath, the ripple effects of the excesses of a man, be it from her father, brother, boyfriend or husband..!
Abuse and mistreatment from a manly figure in her past or present has over time made her a fighter and then hardened her to the world that did her no wrong and that is the reason why you find a woman who refuses to be faithful to her man because she was cheated on to and it was robbed on face like she meant nothing to her lover…!

She was kicked out of her marriage after spending years in poverty with her husband and now when luck finally smiled at him, he thinks its now time to get the woman of his taste, class and calibre..!
I conclude by saying that the LADY is an endangered specie, she is almost extinct. There is more to being a lady than being a female. A real lady is valuable and unique. Her disappearance was an act of rebelliousness  and maybe frustration.

Through the journey of love, many men and women have felt the earth move under their feet and just when it finally stopped moving, they realized that just that moment in their lives had changed them totally, far different from the original people they once were.
Many have been married and divorced , some have been raped and rejected… really the earthquake of life have done alot of damage to us all in different ways but that we are still alive only means that we are survivors. And you cant stay down no matter how pressing it is the weight that you are carrying because time is running out… there is barely no time for games.. i mean its too late for that…
You can suppress who you are but you cant change who you are, ladies!
No matter what had happened, please don’t change who you are… you were created to be the softer shade of blue…
Inspite of the pain, you gotta open your heart or you will suffocate your creativity, and then stifle your feelings and diminish the brief moments of life you have by living in a vacuum for fear of pain…
You can take another risk, girl!  Yes you can!

 

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