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Errmmm Guys!!!
i got a mail from a Nigerian lady who lives in spain and i thought to share and find out if you think
the idea of having bestfriends should still stand seeing how media have bastardized the idea of intimacy!
And this is my background (which I didn't succeed to summarize shorter hehe):
My
name is Dubby, a Nigerian but a student in a popular university in spain and i
have had most of my growing days in certain parts of the world. Anyways to cut
to the chase, I've been friends with a girl from my sorority for 3 years now,
but two years ago I found myself suddenly having feelings of a different kind
than friendship for her. It took me a while before I realised I was actually
feeling very attracted to her, although up to then i always identified as being
straight myself.
I
didn't want to take the risk of ruining the friendship and I think I managed
quite well not to show, but it was hard now and then not saying anything,
especially when we would go clubbing together on a weekend. Over time I
realised inside I was reacting quite intense to her actions and still combined
with feeling attracted to her, bringing me to realise I was simply in love with
her and anything she did or said to me mattered alot. I also realised I had
been sacrificing myself by doing a lot for her whenever she needed me, without
even thinking about it.
Probably
also because of the love I felt for her. Getting too used to my attention, it
made her act spoiled in our friendship though, and after a while I got
completely fed up with it and refused to continue so. Within short period we
ended up in a fight, from my perspective due to her princess behaviour/attitude.
This time I didn't take the initiative to make it up, neither did she, probably
still expecting me to do so. We ended up stubbornly not talking for a couple of
months to each other. And then, as if nothing had happened, after I invited her
over for a friend’s birthday party in Maitama, just before she would go
studying abroad a couple of months, we were good again, without even discussing
the fight.
