ADVICE: ABUJA WIFE LOSES HUSBAND TO MAID AFTER A SECRET BIRTHDAY THREESOME

Hi Juicy Jayne,

I stumbled into your blog and i would say your stories are captivating but i am thinking if you can put up my story here. I am in a situation that i foolishly got myself into and now its turning to bite me in the back.
I have followed your programs on coolfm and figured you and Pastor Ken no longer come on air again, so i had to find you on facebook and trailed you to your blog to find out what you have been up to now. I must say, you can do better here helping relationships too like you did on radio.

Okay, so this is my issue. I married my husband in 2010 and he is 7years older than me, very established in his business. Before we married, he was still finding his ground as a young man and i was there to support and encourage him. Sex has always been great, was still is until that fateful day i indulged his sexual fantasy.


I am of the opinion that to keep your marital and sex life alive, it should be spiced, no matter the constrains you face. So i am open to pleasing and be pleased by my husband and i have seen the effect of it on my marriage.
Last month was my husband's birthday and prior to that the day of his birth, i asked him what he would love to have for a gift. He meandered around it for a while until he jokingly said that he would love for me to help him bring his sex fantasy to pass. We have talked about pretty much weird stuff before so it wasn't strange to have that stuff of conversation with him. We were that open to each other and what we wanted done. He told me that he would love to have sex with me and a stranger who we would pay off, never to see again afterwards.He gave me the option of finding whosoever i was comfortable with and get her STDs tested.

I thought about it for a couple of days and agreed to it, after all it was going to be a one time thing and that could be our own little secret. Everyting said and done, i believed we would be back to just being Us.

 To cut the long story short, I got a certain girl from University of Abuja, whom we were to offer N100,000 for that day but she bid N250,000 without batting a lid and we agreed but when it was close to the date, we couldnt get across to her because her phone was switched off. We waited till that evening to see if she would reach out to us but nothing happened.

My husband in the heat, suggested that we talk to our stay-in-maid if she would agree to it and then pay her off handsomely. I reluctantly agreed because that was risky but he assured me of how it would not go wrong. I really dont know what got to me but truth be told, it was either i sitting on my brain at that time or i had been charmed by my husband.

We had a threesome later on that fateful night with the maid even though i never had body contact with her except for my husband. She was paid handsomely the next morning before i hurried out for work with the knowledge that i would not meet her in the house when i returned and that i would make myself available to pick my kids after school.
Plans were on to get another maid... In my mind, i only fulfilled my husband's fantasy and that was that . It was never going to linger on in my head.

In the evening when my husband arrived, he observed that the maid was no longer home and all of a sudden dramatically changed on me and asked why i sent her away in a hurry and that i should find and call her back to the house or i will not like what he would do to me. It was a tough war through that week because he not only threatened to send me packing with the excuse that i made him an offer to sleep with their maid with proofs that i paid her after the event but he went as far as bringing her back to the house. Now this maid no longer follow my orders and i am too ashamed to look at her in the face.

I would notice that at 3AM in the mornings when my husband thinks i am far asleep, he would  leave me in bed and tiptoe into the maid's room in the boy's quarters. I have confronted him on several occasions but he would threaten, saying that if i dont cherish the respect that he is trying to give me, then he would bring the maid into our matrimonial bed, afterall, it wouldn't be the first time.

I know i have caused this for myself and i am living in the hell that i created with my own hands, please no one should remind me of it as i am already suffering but i love my husband and we have shared so strong a bond that my maid is taking now from me and i want it back. I know i lost my right from the day i agreed to his desires but i thought it could just be one of those secrets we will never tell. Right now, i fear, my maid might be carrying a child. Seeing that i have no son, i am scared what fate might turn out to do.
As i speak, my husband and i, no longer sleep in same room. Please, i dont want to give up on my marriage as i dont know where to start from even though i am going blind with anger, i dont want to do harm to anyone.

Please help me while i am still sane. What do i do? Where do i go from here? Can i remedy this ? Or do i give up on my marriage entirely seeing that my husband is a lost cause?

Mrs. Agnes (Not her real name for security purpose)

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