18TH JULY 2013
Woke up this morning with alot on my mind. Its been a crazy week,but i am grateful to be alive. I have been seeing Hadley for sometime now. It's been just two days since i last saw Hadley after the first meeting. Believe me, i am still in cloud nine, reminiscing on how lucky i have been and how blessed i am now. Maybe i'm moving and thinking too fast or loving the idea of falling in love which should be checkmated because i know how some men tend to take the openness of a sincere woman for granted.
Now, we started out as friends for well over one week and its been really good, getting to know each other and setting standards (
Or i have been the standard setter.... lmao!*). We would most of the time spend long hours in his car talking about everything. I liken him, a smooth talker!
One who is intelligent in and out of his field. That was one of the major attributes that captivated me about him.
Women naturally need men that they can look up to for advise, intellectual stimulation and above all, we look out for men who can keep a conversation going because what we have in most relationships is a situation where the two parties don't talk much but touch more and that's the reason for the huge heartbreaks that we now have in the society. Much time isn't given to discovering each other outside of the bedroom.
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Anyways, back to Hadley!
It was Saturday night at 7pm and i decided to put him to a fisherman's egg sauce with a plate of basmatic rice for the first time. He was thrilled by the act, maybe because it was coming from a woman who has successfully created a name on radio for herself and has got huge fanbase, so, seeing her come to the point of no pride might have been amazing for him plus scary, i guess!
I knew it was too fast but i just didn't want to pretend, make him chase too much (
now i see how wrong i was. Men are built to chase and when you take that away from them, you take away the fun part of the game.)
He felt like someone i had know for decades, the connection was real, beautiful and true so it didn't make sense to make things complicated. We clicked on so many levels, talked about pretty much anything and just being happy and being as real as possible. No one was trying to impress the other!
I couldn't honestly know who i last clicked with like that before and i was loving it.
Hadley was fun, energetic, can be very mushy. He was a man with a very tall dream and was working hard at achieving it. He wasn't a wealthy guy or from a wealthy background and that wasn't a problem for me because i knew that i possibly wouldn't come into a man's life and he remained in the same state that i first met him because he would be supported, the best way possible to reach that goal and same would be required of him for me. Relationship is a team work
("its a we ride or die thing") and most people aren't ready to work hard at it
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More background detail on this guy:
Hadley is a surgeon in the making and he wants to continue in neurosurgery but at the same time he is a rugged business man with herculean plans, really.
The second child in the family of nine
(when i heard that, my eyes popped) from one mother. He is majorly the only child carrying the burden of the home just like me
(we just have some things in common) plus he is a giver. He wants to be able to help the poor around the world as much as God and life would grant him.
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What surprised me more was the fact that even with the huge responsibility that he's been taking care of, he still finds out time to make tangible and wise investments for his future because according to him:
"i don't want to have to work hard all my life like my parents. I would like to put things in place early enough so that when i become 45 years old i will be able to take my wife on a world cruise."
Awwwwwwwwww... tell me why i wouldn't cook fisherman egg sauce and rice after one week of correct talk hhehhehheheh. How potentially viable can a man be????
Never did i know that this sweetness will soon turn sour!
Was it my fault? Did i play my best cards too soon? Did i fall too quickly? Was i too real for him? Or was he just fascinated by the idea of getting a celebrity to fall in love with him? Or was he really too busy?
*i pondered a year after*
To be continued......
