Isioma Madike Gives A vivid Report On Nigerian Marriages Made In Hell.

                 

                 
Women, the world over, are described as homemakers, custodians of social, cultural and fundamental values of the society. In Nigeria, however, many of them are violently treated by their intimate partners. While some take the form of physical abuse, others are sexual, psychological or arbitrary deprivation of liberty. In extreme cases, those in this “hell” often suffer in silence, and could be sent to their untimely grave, reports ISIOMA MADIKE

For every woman, who is violently attacked, we reduce our humanity —Nelson Mandela

Marriage in Nigeria, in most cases, is not pleasurable. This has led many to often describe it as hell on earth, with some couples enduring and suffering the excesses of their partners in silence. At present, no day passes without screaming headlines of the news media of some mind-boggling tales of domestic violence in and around the country. This, indeed, has somehow turned many Nigerian women into endangered species. Many are wondering how, a man, who, during courtship promised to cherish and take care of his woman could later turn her tormentor.

Majority of marriages have also degenerated into humiliation. While in other cases, a promised love has suddenly taken flight and replaced by hate and violence. Is it not strange that a man could hit a woman so violently as to maim, or even send her to untimely grave? This was the puzzle a couple of weeks back that returned Plateau State back in the news. Benjamin Toma, a resident of Foron junction in Barkin Ladi Local Government Area of the state on March 4, at about 7:30 p.m., reportedly beat his wife, Victoria, aged 25, to death.

He, thereafter, hung her lifeless body to give the impression that she committed suicide. The state Commissioner of Police, Chris Olakpe, who confirmed the incident, said Toma took such phony decision to cover up what he did. However, investigations have revealed that Toma took such a heinous action because of his wife’s purported refusal to summit herself to sexual intercourse. It was also gathered from a reliable source that the suspect is allegedly infected with the dreaded Human Immuno Virus (HIV).
This, according to the source, was why his wife had consistently denied him sex. “On the 04/03/2014, at about 7:30 hours, Chuwang Sambo of Larwa village in Heipang District of Barkin Ladi Local Government, reported that one Benjamin Toma of Foron junction, also in Barkin Ladi, beat his wife, Victoria aged 25, to death and later hung her body” the police boss confirmed.
While mouths were still agape over what happened in the Plateau, another man in Jerin Duwatsu village in Zamfara, Mallam Umar, got into Police net for slapping his wife, Inno, to death. The incident, according to the village head, Magaji Hamidu, occurred when the deceased protested against the alleged perpetual injustice shown by the husband in favouring the senior wife on issues relating to matrimonial affairs.
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