Career Women Don't Make Good Wives?

I met this guy somehow, maybe on facebook or on radio, I can’t remember but his name was Richard and we got talking and basically getting acquainted.

He told me how he was the only son to his parents and how urgent he really needed to settle down in no time soon.

“No be only women dey desperate ohh… men are becoming more desperate than women, these days and I wonder why. It feels like there is a shift in paradigm, honestly!”

But that’s by the way. 
Richard is average in height, dark skinned and well ripped.. Boy's done a pretty good job at the gym, though. He is half Nigeria and half Liberian. He is somewhat good looking with a lovely set of teeth and a touch of urgency that could dry any sane woman, nuts.

Anyways, after some months or so, I gave him the privilege of seeing me, live, inviting him over. He was fascinated by my physique and the aura I unconsciously exuded and still exude of which most people think is sort of sexy and automatically gives them the wrong impression of me but hey I am used to that now.

We talked and talked and just there, he popped the question…!

Haaaa.. not what you think, lol.

He said “If we got married someday, I would love for you to stop this job that you do. I would love for you to stay more at home and take care of our kids. I would open a shop where you can sell bag of rice and other food items, would you do that for me or for any man if that happens?”

 Now you don't want to know what my response was like..

Now I was taken aback not by the question but by how fast it came off on the first day of meeting me and trying to adjust to me physically. I don’t have a problem with his question but more so I was perplexed by the aroma of insecurity from the next thing he said.

“I know that you are a public figure and you tend to have male fans call you on your show on radio and I don’t think I can deal with that, so I am asking that you think about it should in case we get to that level”

Almost immediately I loathed the fact that he would ask that of me and not think about how it will affect my psychologically and emotionally. Why are men not ready to compromise and see to it that he supports his woman, no matter her endeavors which is intended upon the success of her home too.

I hear excuses of her likely chances of becoming disrespectful… oh no!

What about the likely chance of you picking up every slightest thing she says or does without her intent to provoke you?Have heard a guy give a fellow guy an advice and he said to him “Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Just, whatever you do, don’t marry a woman with a career. And to me it sounded like don’t marry a woman who is literate.

And his friend asked why?

This Elderly man said that because if many social researchers are to be believed, a man who marries a career driven woman runs a higher risk of having a rocky marriage and While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found out that professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat and are less likely to have children. And if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it because it will steal their independence away thereby taking back into that prison created by most African men.

Not a happy conclusion, especially given that many men, particularly successful men, are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well educated, ambitious, informed and engaged, who wouldn’t want that?. But, to put it bluntly, would it be safe to say that the more successful a woman is, the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with her man especially in a case where she is higher, financially?

And I really don’t understand the insecurity men face with women that are career driven.

Okay pause for a sec, my colleague Hashim explained who career woman is and why men tend to run away from them.

He said that a career woman is one whose goals and aspirations are set on achieving a success out of her career such that she is ready to let go of every other thing to attain a certain height in her chosen field and that career woman isn’t just a woman who works nine to five and gets paid at the end of the month or probably earns more than her man and as such men will never want to put up with that.

Now to be honest with you, I didn’t really think of her in that direction. I thought of her as a woman who works and not caught out to be a full time house wife. However the case might be, its been said that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed, now Do you think that there is a correlation between career women and divorce rate?

Can you say a career woman is more smarter and seemingly intelligent than a full time house wife, seeing that she is aware and in tune with what’s happening around her?

There are speculations that divorce happens more often between working couples because the woman is not financially dependent, so it even easier to let go of their marriages because they already have it going for them,  do you agree with that?

Why are women becoming more career driven? Is it really for the need to support their men or for the sheer need to be free from her man’s control?

Leave your comments below, thanks guys!

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