Do Men Really Know Upon 15minutes Of Meeting A Lady That He Would Want To Settle With Her?

My ohhhh My….guess who’s back???? It’s the juiciest of them all. The one that comes with alot of juice…

Juicy Jayne!

I am back bigger and better!!

This is my first post in 2016 and i am so excited,waking up to realise that my google adsense just got approved....yippeeee!

Darlings, I tell you, its been a minute but you would definitely agree with me that 2015 wasn't really a bad year..and i owe everything to God for the journey so far. it will get better each passing day.

Anyways,i honestly want to get find out: Is it really true that men know what they want and who they are likely to settle down with from the point of inception . I have heard that they know from the first 15mins of chatting up a lady… Let the men in the house, educate us on this, mystery as we the ladies dont understand how you could date someone for so long as long as 4years and yet break up with them only to hook up with the side chick,marrying her six months later!!!

Here is a back story,

There was a lady named Mally, that’s a fake nameby the way, she  met this guy at a lounge. She went out there with her girlfriends to catch up and unfortunately (or fortunately) they sat next to a group of guys who seemed to have had one too many shots. Every now and then as these beauties were catching up and chatting away, they would hear one of the guys randomly ask questions like “why are you girls not socializing?” “or would you want to join our table?” “I’m cold can I come seat next to you? You look warm. You know!!! Those regular ways guys like to  tease women that they are interested in…yea

And true to the guy’s words, the place was actually cold and that was where one of the guys seized the opportunity to talk to Mally. In as much as Mally would have loved to play hard to get, this guy looked too yummy to be ignored so she carried on with the conversation. Turned out he was not bad at all; early 30s, speaks French like Mally, he is an accountant, doesn’t drink (as a matter of  fact he was the only sober one out of all the friends celebrating a birthday). Shots came around, they had a couple each and Then the other guys later on came over to the lady’s side and sat next to them. But this time they were trying to flirt with any girl interested. Towards the end, the same cute guy came and asked for Mally’s numbers.

Fast forward to two months later and Mally confessed that the guy is an amazing person and she thinks His mama should be proud because she raised a great man, all alone. They got along as friends with no problems, no arguments and no misunderstanding that last more than it should. So you might be asking okay get to the point where is the issue? Well, the issue is that he has been proclaiming love. Not simple love but I mean love to the point where he wanted Mally to meet his mother less than 3 months after meeting.

It wasn’t just empty talk. His mother already knew about Mally and was and is still looking forward to meeting this lady. Mally doesn’t mind meeting someone’s mother but with this situation the mother only wants to meet her if Mally am 100% sure that she want to marry her son. On the other hand, this Young dude is so sure but as for Mally she is wondering why the rush for introduction, and moreso, marriage… like  what happened to getting to know each other first?  I mean she also needs to take out time to decide or figure out if he is right for her too just as he has found out for himself too..

Isn't there anything to be suspicious about especially when what you know about this guy is what he’s told you?  Does  the span of time really matter when it comes to proposing? Do you honestly think three months is good enough to decide whether to be this person for the rest of your life? Do you just go with your guts or do you go with what you know?   

Everyone is different when it comes to how long they should know someone before deciding to meet their family, get engaged or get married. There are some people that don’t mind getting married after some months of meeting if they feel everything is right. Some people need some years. As for me, ideally, I would like at least a year to get to know someone and be sure of my emotions (some emotions are temporary). It’s hard for me to believe in love at first sight. One thing I am certain about is knowing where I see a friendship going after having a conversation with someone. I also do believe that only real men who are ready to settle down, have come of age, played all they want, know their immediate intentions right away but maybe the night cafe family can enlighten me. Given, how marriage is not easy at all, how important is it to really take your time, putting into consideration age especially ladies in their early or late thirties.?

I welcome the idea of men knowing their intentions (if all of them could just share those intentions) Actually, it is refreshing to read that most men know their intentions and that could help us women weed out the men that come to permanently chill in our lives with no thoughts of moving forward . Every good has its bumps But the marriage after a few months of meeting is what scares me.. then again we have heard cases of ladies getting dumped after three years of dating a guy only to realize that he got married to another woman in less than two months of meeting her…

If you say its her attitude,then why didn’t he leave? Why hang  on for years ? why not leave so that she process her feelings or move on?? Has anyone gotten married in less than a year of meeting? And how has it being? How are you striving with the challenges,if there be anyone? Do you know anyone who has? As for the men, is the statement about intentions true for you? What do you think about the topic in general? Please call in and share your thoughts.

illustration credit: peniel_Enchill

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