I married my cats after my last relationship ended in heartache - and it's purr-fect

After a painful breakup, many women believe they’ll never find love again. But for 48-year-old web designer Barbarella Buchner, finding another man after her seven-year relationship ended has been the last thing on her mind because she believes she’s found happiness, companionship and emotional fulfillment with her cats.

Incredible as it sounds, Barbarella thinks she’s found not one, but two soulmates in the form of her male moggies named, Spider and Lugosi. Her devotion to them is so strong that 10 years ago she even married them in an online ceremony.

"They’re the loves of my life," she claims. "I have no regrets and I don’t care what people say."

She has always been an animal lover. At 34, Barbarella finally got the chance to adopt her own cats, and she took the opportunity very seriously. "It was love at first sight when I laid eyes on my boys, Lugosi and Spider," she recalls. "I’ll never forget that day. They were rubbing against the cage and purring.

"I knew I wanted those cats… I could tell the feeling of love was mutual judging by their purrs and the way they were brushing their little faces against the bars. That was it; they were coming home with me!"

Barbarella – who now lives in Lanzarote – has had a few long-term relationships with men, but never wanted to marry.

She explains, "I didn’t know if I had it in me to be a wife. Some women are built to clean up after their men, and I’m not like that. But I never minded being my cats’ servants. I’m not a submissive person but I’ll do anything for Lugosi and Spider."

Barbarella says the cats were a comfort to her after her most serious relationship with her boyfriend of seven years broke down.

"My ex was the most important person in my life until things stopped working between us," she says. "He’d come home and we’d argue over something, or he’d want to chat when I didn’t want to. We ended up sleeping in separate rooms. I thought there was hope for us but in the end, there wasn’t.

"It was so painful breaking up with him. I cried for weeks after we split up, but the cats really helped me through the process. I would cry into Lugosi and Spider’s fur. They were on the sofa with me all the time and I felt calm.

"After my boyfriend left, Spider and Lugosi were still there for me, helping me get through the separation anxiety and feelings of sadness. I have loved and lived with a couple of partners before but I realised that my love for my fur babies is so much deeper than anything I have felt for a human." "Obviously I don’t have sex with my cats. It’s just pure, spiritual, unconditional love on both sides, as simple as that."

In 2004, Barbarella decided to make their love official and looked into ways to marry her cats. 

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