Well, i decided to pick up a book and read.
Remember we as a people, if we need to project farther in this times and age that we live in, we need to bring back the dead culture of reading to Nigeria…! It just a few of us who really read and that’s why we are the way we are, stagnated in our own state of ignorance…
And how can we even make this work in our homes, society or relationships if we keep applying the same old principles that we learnt a decade ago or maybe principles that we heard from others a long time ago…?
You don't try old mechanisms to get new results, its plain futile….
All I'm saying is that we all need to open our minds, broaden our horizon and have a better understanding of the energy evolving and revolving around us, so that it can be efficiently manage but in the light of all of the things i have just put together,i am glad to let you know that today i will be sharing with you some things i learnt from TD Jakes book, pretty old though but it will be nice to remember some things in it, well, that's if you have read it before, from his book, THE LADY, HER LOVER AND HER LORD!!
Oh yes, you do remember that book hun?
He said that marriage is a sacred relationship, it is the second most important relationship in a woman’s life. A woman doesn’t necessarily need to be married to be happy but there are few things that are as satisfying as the sweet nectar of true eros love and sharing your life with a partner who values and respect you.
And the part i like the most in that book says that a woman who does not love herself becomes so thirsty for love that she rushes into love half dressed and ill prepared…..and when that happens, she will always love too quickly, hold on too tightly and more often than not, loose to quickly the one that she has aspired to grasp..
She holds on to every word he says to her like a child holding onto sand on the beach, she squeezes him tightly, but then she opens her hands only to discovered that he has slipped through her fingers, and she doesn’t even know why he left.
But ..if you are that kinda of woman, i can tell you that there is good news for you.. there is a cure for a compulsive woman who loves too easily and then grieves for years over bad choices and denied gratification.. if you relate with yourself well enough and have a strong sense of self worth, you can easily share your life with another person because you have a calm rhythm that keeps you in sync with your goals and in tune with those around you. Your life becomes a melody line that is captivating and pleasant to a man’s ears so badly that when he sees you, he would want to harmonize with you.and if at the long run, you decide to choose him, the relationship becomes a duet with a balance and a purpose, Ofcourse and even when you decide to go solo, you are still perfect and more effective being alone because you have first learnt to fall in love with yourself.
According to T.D Jakes book, he described this kind of new lady as a woman who will eventually bring to the bed of her husband the soft petals of a rose that is free from thorns and he will not be pricked by loving her…
why???
Because she had spent time researching about herself to better know the kind of man that would harmonize her rhythm or her style of love…look, its just not enough to feel like a woman, you need to feel like a lady…. hmmmm T.D Jakes is just too bad with worse, i tell you… anyways hang on in here because there is more from where this one came from!
Its just the only thing positive that causes the senses to heighten…it is only love that can cause the heart to pump honey to the soul and sedation to the mind and in case you didn’t know, it is the sweet taste of the honeycomb that satisfies the taste buds of the soul… and without love, life would taste plain, just ordinary and success is therefore empty without love!
Anyways, enough of my wet dreams!!!
So ladies and gentlemen can we talk about your success stories on love, lets just forget about the bad part that comes with falling in love with the wrong kinda of people….!
I believe in true love… some friend of mine, Bryan by name , said this afternoon that true love only exist with the whites and not Nigerians, or the black… the whites can love you to a point that they commit suicide if you reject them or dump them, well, i have read cases like that here in niaja but hey I don't want to talk about that because that’s not what love is all about…
So if i were to give you a paper and a crayon and i tell you to paint the picture of love for me, what would it be…! what would you paint? What would your imagination of love be?
I just want to see what you think about love and how you see it as it relates to you.. because how you see love determines how it will last in your hands….
So if you have a success story about finding the true love with a friend, a mother or just anybody let us know… well you can say, tonight is a night of celebration of love….!
I would mostly love to hear from the married ones who have been with their partners for many years, can you just be of help and teach the young ones what love is all about and on what foundation your love is built and the sustenance for as long as you both have lived or are still living as the case may be?
I know that you have been married for like 10, 20 years, we need to know how it happened.
Often time i wonder what on earth can compete with love? What about you? I mean, have you ever thought about it before?
Because this force has kept the sick man alive from dying,and then made a well man feel sick… it gives courage and yet still make us afraid…
I guess, You can attest the fact that love can weaken the mighty and strengthen the feeble,,, i mean its the most intoxicating feeling on earth that any one of us will ever have the privilege of experiencing… it has the capacity to alter our perceptions and heighten our vulnerability, it can make an average man extraordinary and without doubt,we all want to experience love but TD Jakes said something in his book that changed my orientation about love entirely, he asked a question, in as much as we all desire this immeasurable feeling of love, but the question is are we in love with others or are we in love with the idea of being in love?
Because if you are looking for love, you must have to find it in yourself first, if not, you will saddle your relationship with undue weight and then hold your partner in perpetual state of guilt because you blame them for not meeting up to your expectations which are humanly impossible. And more important is the fact that when we do not value ourselves we tend to attract who support that devalued image we portray out there….remember that it is how you treat yourself that determines how others treat you….
If you honour yourself, there be some men who will definitely find that as an unattractive feature, okay? You will hear statements like “she think she is all that” or that girl is tripping but the truth of the matter is the he has seen the product and doesn’t have the price that the ticket says must be paid and you know that's infuriating… you must know that sometimes rejection is a blessing and not a curse.
So the question, you should ponder on is, is it fair to expect anyone to bear the brunt of your life filled with pain and dysfunction? I lay my case here but ladies, go get that book by T.D Jakes if you haven’t seen it before, the lady, her lover and her lord… it will open your eyes and mind on how you see and perceive yourself, love and every one around you…
WHAT IS YOUR PERFECT PICTURE OF LOVE? PAINT IT FOR ALL EYES TO SEE.
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