Okay So.. I guess I have a problem.. A major problem. I've been with my "fiance" for a year and 9 months. Truthfully, I should have stayed away from him in the beginning. Let's just say he was the popular boy in high school who went to parties, got drunk and definitely got around. I was never that kind of girl so I pretty much hated him when we went to school together. But two years after he graduated a friend of mine sent me a text while she was at his house and kind of got the ball rolling I guess.
Honestly, I never had intentions of getting serious, but after hanging out with him for a little while, I started to think he had changed. Long story short, we began dating. 4 months into it I found out I was pregnant. It was very unexpected and far sooner than I had ever planned for myself. But it was my mistake and my responsibility. Either way, He was there and has remained there throughout the whole thing. The only problem is, it's been hell. From day one, I later found out, It's been lie after lie.
First he lied about the number of girls he's been with. He said 11 but later confessed to have been with anywhere from 50 to 70 women. That made me sick to my stomach. I wanted to leave so bad, but I almost felt compelled to stay with him because after all, I was pregnant with his child. Then I read messages on his myspace where he is complimenting other girls pictures on their profile. That literally broke my heart. But I got over it. And I told him either he stops, or we stop. Well he stopped talking to girls on myspace and started acting like a real man. The only problem is I can't get over his past. I know that bad, But really I can't.
It's nearly been a year since we've had any real problems but I keep having a problem with him. Ex: His best friend is dating a girl that he used to have sex with all the time. Recently we were in Sam's Club and his best friend came up (With the girl) and talked to him. I, having no idea about their past relations, smiled at the girl and was very nice. After we walked away my fiance says "I used to hump her all the time" Really?
Does he not know how that makes someone feel? I'm always so insecure about girls now, where ever we go. I always think "Has he had sex with her?" "Have they been together" I literally make myself so sick that all I want to do is lay in bed and not wake up. I feel like I cant go anywhere without being around someone he's been with. He says I'm the only one he loves, but that doesn't make me feel any better. Gosh, I'm gettin sick just thinking about it now.What should I do?
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Girl, you have got to find yourself some standards and state them so he knows. i am quite happy at the fact t5hat5 he is trying to be a real man but when you don't love yourself enough to shut his excesses down then you have a lot coming for you. and guess what? there is a child involved so you have to think things through and weigh the pros and cons of your relationship putting the interest of your baby at the front burner. you will be fine, love.
ReplyDeleteErm, this body count matter is some serious sh*t and her reaction isn't really helping her man in anyways. Seems like each time he crosses the line, she pushes the line forward so that she doesn't have to loose him. And i really have an issue with the way he's so comfortable and confident that he brags about his sexcapades to her. Like swear down the dude has got golden balls.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are not yet married for God's sake. Concentrate on how to have a safe delivery and stop having sex with someone who is not married to you. After your childbirth you can consider legalising your marriage with him if he has a good heart I.e if he values and respects you but if not; take care of your baby and move on someone who values you will come your way....and stop being fooled by verbal ‘i love yous'
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