Women Be Realistic About What You Want From Men.

So earlier on i was talking to some ladies who try to change their men from one person too imperfect to another too perfect..and it gets me wondering is it bad to even want to change your significant other to someone else???
Okay, so you want him to go to church faithfully and be on time abi? No wahala, good!!! but you forget that you yourself only get to church in time to hear the pastor say his closing remarks and share the grace. Not to mention while you’re there you’re constantly checking your phone for text messages to see if there are any new comments on your photo/status on your social network page. You want him to be able to quote the bible abi? No wahala, when all you know is Genesis and Revelations and you think the names Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego are names of lastest human hair and cars.
You don’t want him to drink or club abi? No wahala, but you forget that it is in a club you met him where he bought you and your friends drinks. Okay, so he should not curse but let someone bypass you without signalling on the road, the kind of atrocity that will project from your mouth ehnnn it will take the grace of God for that person to survive.

Ladies please I beg of you to stop this and take it from a woman who has attempted and failed oh so miserably at this impossible mission. You cannot expect a man to have attributes and values that you yourself do not have nor can uphold. Its an impossible mission..
Remember, you get what you put out. Stop trying to change a man into something he is not or he is not even ready to be, you will only suffer yourself in the end and you may even end up with a life threatening condition called “chronic abandonment a la nagging”–and thats a condition where a man leaves you each time due to excessive nagging. Take it from a woman who has been..and learnt the hard way cus at the end you will be the one who gets changed.

So here are my final remarks. Not one person on this earth is perfect; so stop trying to alter your significant other week by week into what you think would be perfect. You see human beings have this characteristic of “what you see is what you get”. It’s like going into a car dealership buying a Camry and then getting home hoping/wishing/rain dancing that it will turn into Aston-Martin. It’s never going to happen. Know what you’re looking for in a mate and set your standards. Remember your mate is not your accessory to make you look good, he is your compliment. Be realistic. Accept nothing less than respect, loyalty, unconditional love, patience, and compassion in a partner.

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