The Cheat, The Cheatee Or The Victim, Who Is To Blamed?

Over the weekend, Hashim and I were brainstorming on what I could talk about on the show next week and you know how it almost feels like you have exhausted everything possible to talk about, yea?? That was how I felt and so we went over to facebook just watching out for possible gist that could make for good talk on radio when we bumped into a video of some fat black woman beating the hell out of a young girl, pants down. She kicked; she threw thunderous blows and slaps that got this young lady rolling on the floor, crying for help and at the same time fighting to survive the ordeal.

Now as we sat and watched in amazement at how furious this fat lady was kicking the butt out of this lady while her own boobs were practically flying out of her gown because of the force with which she flung her arms while hitting this lady, Hashim immediately asked me one question that seemed really appropriate for the situation.

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Both Are Dying: Would You Save Your Mother Or Your Stepmother?

Some hypothetical question that I thoughtwould make for a good topic..

You know how blood is thicker than water, so says the long aged proverb that we tend to qualify how deep family means to us.

Well this was what I found out  and I would love to kick off the week with this question first.

Imagine your mum left your dad when you were just 8 months old because he had no money. Your dad remarried a lady because he needed someone to take care of you. Unfortunately she couldn't bear your dad a child, she dedicated her entire time looking after you. 

Due to the financial state of the house, your step mum sold all she had so that she could sponsor your education. Luckily you graduated as a medical doctor, own you your hospital. One day an emergency occurred due to an accident which involved your biological mother and your step mother, your hospital was the nearest and obviously a good one, so both were brought in. You can only attend to one patient at a time being the only doctor on duty. Who will you give priority to? Your biological mum / or your step mum? (The situation permits you to choose just one, both losing blood profusely.

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Polygamy: What Is Good For The Goose Should Be Good For The Gander, Right??

A man is married to two wives legally and one day, he comes home late in the night only to find both wives having sex with each other. He became utterly shocked and bitter to point that he sent both women back to their parents with an argument that he met his wives cheating on him at his absence….

“Hiannn…!”

“Cheating With whom?”

“With themselves during his absence!”

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Is "Feminism" The Gateway To Lesbianism?

Away from age and love, I found an article that says that 70% of Men between the ages of 20-34 Are Not Married… why?

Because at the onset of feminism, things changed and men began to redraw their masculine steps towards women… ever since women learnt to stand up for themselves, defend, provide for themselves plus even pleasure themselves, men learnt to stay aloof, get satisfaction from  any one who Is ready and move on to the next…

Feminism was supposed to bring women happiness but the research shows that women today are much more unhappy then they have been in the past. They’ve ended up with far more opportunities, but their personal happiness is way down because most men are not ready to settle with strong opinionated women.

On the other hand, someone made me realize that nooo oh, feminism hasn’t made women unhappy but rather It made them diversify, look for other means to satisfy themselves and through feminism came the idea of sex toys, where a woman would say we don’t need no man because we can make do with a dildo or a vibrator…

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Does It Really Matter If I Decide To Marry A Man, Half My Age Or A Man Twice My Age?

You know, changes through times are remarkable, such that its almost possible that anything and everything is obtainable and thus we can do just about anything we want, date or marry anyone and anything we feel a certain attachment to.

Once you catch a glimpse of any type of idea or dream…., the times that we are in can allow you express it. People might frown at it because it’s unusual but then you still can go by it and damn the consequences….

I can remember a friend of mine in my university days who got married to a guy way older, too old for comfort though but I had a way of suppressing my surprise the first time I bumped into her husband in a supermarket but I just didn't know how to greet him… I was torn between going down on my knees respectfully or not be too casual about it, either way… I just figured an awkward way around it, which she was smart enough to figure out..

See, they'veD got lovely kids together and believe me, she is doing so well for herself than I could have ever imagined.

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Please Advice: Mrs X Finds A Suggestive Facebook Message, Making Her Think Her Husband Could Be Bisexual

I can’t consider the fact that I even have to write this post, because of how  confused I am right now. Sorry it’s so long.

I just got wedded recently this year and for confidential reasons I would love not to mention the month so that my husband doesn’t put the dots together and think it could be me because he is an ardent fan on one of the radio stations.

Back to my story, the beginning of my marriage has been totally amazing, I have had absolutely no reason to complain because my husband is wonderful and has been better to me than I would choose to admit, to be honest. We’ve been together for almost 9 years, since we graduated from university of Ibadan but the reason I am writing this message to you is because I stumbled unintentionally on something last night that got me off guard for days.

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Is It Even True That We Don’t Choose Who We Love Or Who Loves Us In Return?

Hi Jane,

I am shima from kubwa. I am in a relationship where am not really getting what I want. The relationship has lasted for almost a year now and I have not for once denied him whatever he asks. Most times even when am not ready for sex. I really don't have a choice because I’m just so scared of what the aftermath would look like. I broke up from a 4yr relationship and it was during my times of pain that this other guy came along. And with him I could go through that period and that made it easy. Now he is the only one in my life and I have become so rigid that I CAN’T let anyone come into my life anymore. He said he has a woman somewhere far away but the connect wasn't there anymore because of the distance. He hardly calls and whenever he calls, we hardly have something to talk about. Juicy I’m so hurt and confused. I dunno how to move on because I’m scared of losing him.

There is really no communication BTW us..i'm so scared of him. Sometimes he yells at me like he would strangle me if not he doesn't touch his women

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The question is, is he scared of losing you too? Lets start from there, first and build to a crescendo. Now, your fear is born out of the fact that you don’t want to be alone. You think being alone is a dark room where you can metamorphose into a beast that no one will like to associate with such that when you finally step out of that closet and look at your frame in the mirror, you wouldn’t even blame people for leaving you but yourself because you weren’t able to deal with the pain, the anger and the hatred surging through you right now as a result of your love being thrown back at you by the one man that you entrusted it to. Now the instability of your chaotic emotions has infused into your cells, changing your DNA into that of an emotionally insensitive being who would care less of any other one but the man that she’s lost…

*weird analogy, I guess*

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Short Story: WOMEN.....What Are You Worth?!

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, "Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."

She began to expound:

"As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?

I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man.... or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more."

"I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.

She said:

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New Song Alert: Everything By Favour Johnson Featuring Paul Play

New song alert:  this blog will feature new Nigerian based songs; be it gospel or secular. So starting off with “Everything” by Favour Johnson featuring Paul play is a song that y’all need to listen up to.
Favour Johnson is a multi-talented Nigerian based International music artiste; a thoroughbred worshiper and lover of the most high God. He was born in Kano state Nigeria but hails from Benue State.

He’s  has been doing music for over 20 years with about two studio albums already; His genre has a unique fusion of Reggae, Rock, and Alternative and African contemporary music.

I need to let you know that meeting this musician who is also a great song writer and poet for the first time; you will find his vibrant demeanor which has endeared thousands of fans who are lovers of God and gospel music to him. His debut album 'CELEBRATE' was released in 2004 after which he has released a number of hit singles which includes the very popular ‘I'M A NIGERIAN’ which expresses his passion for his country.

SONG INFO
This Song 'EVERYTHING' talks about being Thankful for the Grace and Mercy of God and what it brings into one's Life; That is talking about the things that the people of the world seek after, and having God bring them to his children on a Platter of Gold, and being able to access them effortlessly is a great course or reason to be thankful for #EVERYTHING he has done, He featured the Legendary Paul 'Play IK Dairo on this one. 

here is the link : "EVERYTHING"

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She Is Hermaphrodite And Looking For A Man To Marry

Hi jane,
For security reasons I would love to hide my identity. I am a woman of 30years and life has not been easy for me, not because I am from a poor background… far from it, I have had my needs taken care of from conception till now.
From childhood, I have always been different, treated and looked differently by my family because of my gender. At first I never took notice of my body until I turned 13 and I knew there was something strange about my genitals. A girl in the midst of five boys, I thought I was like them until my first menstruation and the budding of my breasts. Looking at my brothers back then, they never had to bleed like the way I did because I have what they have too. I have a penis and underneath it is a vagina. That made me different and strange.
As I became aware of myself, I got more confused because these organs are fully developed and functional. I asked questions, saw doctors and was told that I am an hermaphrodite. Upon knowing who I am, I never dressed in front of anyone until after falling in love with my roommate in high school at sixteen… she was wild and a bisexual who tried to get me to loosen up. It started the day, it totally skipped my mind to lock the door while I was having my bath, she barged into the bathroom only to figure out the one reason why I had been so shy all along.
To cut the long story short, we have had series of sexual escapades till I graduated and I had to come back to Nigeria to serve. Ever since then, I have had to recoil into hiding because people don’t associate with our kinds. I am more a woman than man and have come of age to settle down. I need say that I have a womb and doctor says that I can deliver a child. I don’t think I have hopes of living permanently outside Nigeria because I am to take care of family business as my father will be retiring next month. So I am wondering if there is any man out there that has and can marry me just the way I am? Would it make any man gay?

HERE ARE SOME RESPONSES FROM FACEBOOK

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Confession: Are Most Mortuary Attendants Necrophiles?

In a world where any and everything goes sexually, I am pretty much freaked out with the idea of necrophilia and don’t know what goes on in the mind of one who is obsessed with the idea of having sex with corpses just because he is a mortuary attendant and he finds it hard to have a real relationship with a decent woman..!

I have had to ask some ladies if they would be willing to date a man who works in a mortuary and the response I got were one and the same.

“Nooo Ohh!”

Why?

Its creepy to have the hands of a man who touches and takes care of dead bodies come home to you and caress your body. That’s not a good idea at all for most ladies and it leaves me wondering who then would be willing to marry a mortuary attendant and should one be rejected based on the nature of his job?

Should a mortuary attendant be blamed for choosing the life of a necrophile just because he’s been rejected over and over again because of what he does?

Listen to what a mortuary attendant confessed to and why he thinks he should be justified such that it leaves me wondering if all mortuary attendants get initiated like this.

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Career Women Don't Make Good Wives?

I met this guy somehow, maybe on facebook or on radio, I can’t remember but his name was Richard and we got talking and basically getting acquainted.

He told me how he was the only son to his parents and how urgent he really needed to settle down in no time soon.

“No be only women dey desperate ohh… men are becoming more desperate than women, these days and I wonder why. It feels like there is a shift in paradigm, honestly!”

But that’s by the way. 
Richard is average in height, dark skinned and well ripped.. Boy's done a pretty good job at the gym, though. He is half Nigeria and half Liberian. He is somewhat good looking with a lovely set of teeth and a touch of urgency that could dry any sane woman, nuts.

Anyways, after some months or so, I gave him the privilege of seeing me, live, inviting him over. He was fascinated by my physique and the aura I unconsciously exuded and still exude of which most people think is sort of sexy and automatically gives them the wrong impression of me but hey I am used to that now.

We talked and talked and just there, he popped the question…!

Haaaa.. not what you think, lol.

He said “If we got married someday, I would love for you to stop this job that you do. I would love for you to stay more at home and take care of our kids. I would open a shop where you can sell bag of rice and other food items, would you do that for me or for any man if that happens?”

 Now you don't want to know what my response was like..

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